Journaling was not good self-therapy

Not for me.

It worked for a while. I’d get up early in the morning or staying up late at night. That was my time alone. And when I’m alone, the voices in my head get stronger.

So I journaled.

I wrote down what I dreamt of last night, what I thought about today, how the things were not going my way, and how I blamed myself for everything that happened and didn’t happen.

I wrote down the solution, the resolution, how I’m going to improve myself, building up a system and sticking to it. And I also wrote that I should stop being lazy and a disappointment.

Because EVERYONE can do it. Whatever that “it” means.

If I CAN’T do it, it’s my fault and my fault alone.

That was what I journaled, every day, for a year.

Then I got depressed. Who wouldn’t?

Journaling serves as a way of looking internally, of saying the truth, of self-reflection.

But when things — those negative things — started to repeat, I should have stopped writing and notice that pattern.

I was so busy with self-reflecting, I didn’t see that I was trapped in that negative, self-blaming circle.

Journaling not only let you express yourself, it also helps you discover the truth that’s hidden behind your consciousness.

But there’s a vital step to do beside only writing, writing, and writing — you have to actually read what you wrote, in order to see much about yourself that you didn’t know.

And this if step is missing, journaling is not helping you as the way it should be.

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Inspiration Vault: Selfishness and One’s Own Well-Being

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I’m going to focus on nothing else but my own well-being. The best a mother can give her kid is her own well-being, physically and mentally.


Because that represent a way of living.


Taking responsibility for your own life is the most essential way to live a good life.


Taking care of yourself is not selfish.


Being selfish means ignoring, and therefore, hurting others while solely thinking about one’s own benefit:

“It’s my way or confict.”
“It’s my way or the highway.”


Ignoring or even hurting one’s own well-being “for the sake of others” is the opposite of selflessness.


It usually manifests a narcisistic character. Such character demands everybody else’s recognition and acknowledgement of this character’s “selflessness”. And at the same time, for this person to feel morally superior to “others”.


Taking care of oneself first means you don’t become a burden to anyone else, by needing other people’s help or assistence.


Taking care of oneself is the precondition to be supportive or helpful to other people.


Taking care of oneself first and asking people to take care of themselves — so that it’s fair for everyone from the start. Nobody is in anybody’s debt in the first place.


It’s the lightest and fairest relationship.


Take care of yourself so that you can take care of others, without feeling sorry for yourself and demanding repay from others later.


How to take care of yourself first?


List out every problem in your life that you are thinking about at this moment.
1. I don’t have enough money to…
2. I’m in a terrible relationship with…
3. I cannot achieve my dream to be…


And now ask yourself: How do I feel? How are my physical and mental states? What can I do to improve my physical health and my mental health?


Work on your physical and mental well-being first.


Because, as you can see, only when you are in a good place with your physical and mental health, can you solve or even begin to tackle the problems you listed above.


This is the ultimate prioritization.


We all live in the same world. But in fact, we operate seperately in our own worlds — with our own body and using our own mind, while guided and influenced by our own spirituality or belief.


In this analogy, our body and mind are the sole fundamentals of our own world in which we operate. If the fudamentals are problematic and unstable, so are the operations within this world — your career, relationships, love life, dreams and hopes…


This ultimate prioritization is not selfish.


It’s the very important, should-not-be-missed construction and regular maintanace of the world we are living in.


It’s not a basic human right to do so.


It’s a basic human responsibility.