The language we use yields much power. Especially when we use it to describe events in our lives.
I’m not talking about affirmation here. It won’t help you if you tell yourself repeatedly again and again the things with your mouth, but in your head you deny it, because for you it’s just not true?
What I mean is this: be aware of the role of yourself in your own story. Are you putting yourself in a hero’s position? Are you an active doer or a passive receiver? With what intention were you making decisions? Because intention and outcome aren’t always hand-in-hand. They should be judged separately. Too often people are judged by the outcome of their actions only. And no one’s interested in the backstory involving their intention.
What’s your backstory? What roles do you see yourself took on?
People are subjective. We all are. But at least we can try to be fair with ourselves.
For most of us, it’s easy to be kind to others, but not to ourselves.