You are mistaken.
What you think you love is actually about yourself.
Which is not a bad thing.
How did I find that out?
I know how I feel when I listen to a song, say “Closing Time”.
When I listened to it with the person I love sitting next to me, I felt so happy.
I knew this song, from that Justin Timberlake movie with Mila Kunis. I liked it very much in 2013.
Then which I was browsing through my old diary, I saw that I wrote about this song while I was with my ex.
It turns out that this song, to me, was not about anyone. It’s about how I feel at the moment when I was with someone I care about.
It’s always about “me”.
So here you have it.
I’m not saying this is bad or disappointing. It is how it is.
It’s just important to realise this fact about us. About our love for others.
Here I’m only speaking about romantic relationships. Our love with parents and other family members surely works differently.
What you love and how you love reflect how you are.
Loving another soul is the extension of self love. How you love people is how you are choosing to love yourself.
This is a simple but grand fact.